"Do holidays present people in your country with similar marital problems?" If so how are those problems resolved. If not, why not?"
Monday, November 26, 2012
Where to spend the holidays?
This article describes difficulties married people face during the holidays. After reading the article, either include a summary or answer the discussion question in the comment box below.
"Do holidays present people in your country with similar marital problems?" If so how are those problems resolved. If not, why not?"
"Do holidays present people in your country with similar marital problems?" If so how are those problems resolved. If not, why not?"
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Depending on the couple this kind of decision could cause some marital problems. However, in my experience clarify this decision before getting married is the best option. My husband and I decided before getting married that on December 24th we would spend time with my family, and on December 31st with his. As a result, we never had marital problems associated with choosing where to spend the holidays.
ReplyDeleteThe article said about decisions where they should go on holidays. In my country, we have same situation: Father side first or Mother side first? That is our problem. Sometimes many couple argues with that. They want to go to their side first. However, most couple go to husband side first and then they go to wife side. Actually, I don’t know how to solve the problem. In my case, if I got married, I will go to wife side first, because I have got three older sisters. They always go to their husband side first. It means when they come to our house, I have to go to my wife side. Therefore, I already talk to my mother about that. I don’t want to argue with that.
ReplyDeleteThis article talked about holidays. It is hard for people to make a balance about place where they should spend time father's side or mother's side. In Korea, there is a same problem. I think people normally go to father's side and then go to mother's side. In my family's case, we also go to father's side, and after eat lunch or next day, we go to mother's side. I don't know why, but I think the reason why people go to father's side is that we still have a patriarchal. Actually, it is really complicated to make a solution. However, if people decide which side they will go first, and then they go to another side first at next year, it could be a solution.
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I don't think that this kind of things make differences in married couples. For what I have seen, many families spent one Holiday with one side of the family and the other holiday with the other. Is a good thing that we only celebrate Christmas and New years that way is not unequal.
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ReplyDeleteHolidays do not really present a problem for married couples in my country. Generally, they switch-off houses each holiday and other times they stay home. However, it has become a habit to choose the husband's house.
ReplyDeleteHolidays do not really present a problem for married couples in my country. Generally, they switch-off houses each holiday and other times they stay home. However, it has become a habit to choose the husband's house.
Not really. The majority of people in my country do not leave home to study in another state, so they usually marry with people from the same city, that is why we do not face such problem.
ReplyDeleteIn my country every couple and family decided what they would do for the holidays. In my parents case, I think they agree something in the past. We live far away from are family so, we spend christmas with differents friends every year. But, for New Years Eve we spend it with my grandma, uncles and cousins (dad side). And the next day we go to my gradpa and gradma house (mom side, we have a huge barbecue with all my cousins. We have done this since I was a child. So, I think my parents never had such problem. It's depent how they find the solution if they will have problems about it. Every couple find there own way how to celebrate their holidays.
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In Spain the holidays is a huge problem to couples. Most of divorces are in holidays because couples share more time together and this cause a lot of conflicts. This sounds odd but is sure. While a couple spens their time in the job or in the school everything is fine but it fully changes in the holidays. Most of Spanish married couples come to conclude that they are so different each other.
ReplyDeleteI never thought about this question, but I think Chinese tradition is wise. In Chinese culture, we only have one really big holiday, and it is Chinese New Year( Although we have other two important holidays). During the nine days holiday, Chinese New Year Eve and Chinese New Year stay with husband's family, and they stay with wife's family on the second of Chinese New Year. I think if Chinese follow that tradition will be no problem. Randy Lin
ReplyDeleteIn my country we don't have this problem because we usually go to school In town. When living in Colombia, I spent part of the night with my parent's and part with my husband's parents. Then Christsmas day we usually stay at home with our daughter. But here in Utah, in my second family ( my first husband passed away) we had a interesting Thanksgiving day. My step daughter prepared a wonderful meal and had her mother with her new husband and his family for lunch. Then she rearrange the meal and we went to her house for diner. This way she had her sisters together
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